How to Recharge, Find Harmonious Passion, and Be a Great Friend

Have you ever met anyone so intense and sure of themselves that you can’t help listening to them? Even if you don’t agree with what they’re saying, you still want to learn their point of view. As I listened to David Halpern’s podcast Social Triggers Insider, I felt like I needed to look up and research everything he said!

This podcast was suggested by Jess Lively of The Lively Show. I reviewed her podcast last week: 3 Tips to Add Intention to Your Daily Life. I think the reason Social Triggers is so enticing is because David mixes psychology with business. He interviews New York Times best seller’s about how to integrate the lessons in their books into business and entrepreneurship.

David is always amazingly prepared for his podcasts. Not only does he read every book he asks about on his podcast, he remembers every story they tell and comes prepared with questions! There is never a dull moment, that’s for sure. Here are the themes I found throughout the podcast:

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Take Time to Recharge

Do you find yourself on social media between tasks? I know I do. If there’s a fifteen minute break, I immediately get on my phone. After all, fifteen minutes won’t hurt anything and there’s nothing I can really get into for that short amount of time, right? Wrong. David suggests that there is actually something better we can do with those fifteen minutes.

He suggests that you use that time to think about your day and recharge. Constantly using social media takes our minds away from things that really matter. Spending that time planning, power napping, thinking, or reflecting can be a much better use of our time. I love this, because I imagine that when this becomes a habit, it would be such a relaxing activity that would help us recenter. And, it can be done anywhere!

Two Types of Passion

There have been many time on this blog that I’ve mentioned passion. Every time it’s mentioned, I get such an overwhelming response about how important it is and how necessary it is for success. And you’re right, it’s 100% necessary! That’s why I thought it was so interesting that there are two kinds of passion… One type is good and one type is actually bad!

Let’s start with the good type: harmonious passion. Harmonious passion is healthy because it is consistent with what you want you want to achieve in your life. This means that your passion allows you to grow in other areas of your life as well as pursue your dreams. For example, let’s say your passion was writing novels. You would wake up every morning and write 500 words and then spend the morning exercising, eating breakfast, and then go about your day. Of course, you would think about writing when an inspiring thought came to you and it may come up in conversations with others. 

On the other hand, there is obsessive passion. Obsessive passion takes over other parts of your life. It’s something you’re thinking about constantly, even when you’re not doing it. You also may feel guilty if you’re not doing it. To stick with the writing example, your morning might look like writing 500 words and then knowing you should exercise and eat breakfast but feeling bad about doing those things because you won’t be writing. Writing might dominate conversations between you and your loved ones, and other activities won’t be as enjoyable.

Be a Great Friend

There were so many interviews on Social Triggers Insider that talked about the power of connections and strong relationships. This past week I reviewed the book The Defining Decade: Why your twenties matter – and how to make the most of them now by Meg Jay, PhD, which you can read here. In that review, I talked about what Jay calls the strength of weak ties. Weak ties are essentially connections that you get through connections what are not in your immediate circle. 

The Social Triggers Insider podcast takes this idea a step further with dormant ties. Dormant ties are people that you’ve known in the past but haven’t been in contact with for three or more years. Essentially, you used to know them but lost contact. These types of ties are the most useful ties of all! This is because they give you all the benefits of a strong tie (past history), but have been meeting different people and travel in different circles like a weak ties.

Like any relationship, a key part of calling on these dormant ties is being a great friend. If you try to ask for help from someone you’ve rubbed the wrong way in the past, they aren’t likely to want to help you! So what’s the secret to being a great friend? David suggests that we give, give, give. Friendships should involve 60% giving and 40% taking, and that should go for both people involved!

Luckily, all of the tips mentioned above have been researched not only by David Halpern, but by everyone he interviewed. I definitely encourage you to look up this podcast and have a listen if you’re at all interested in business or psychology, because the mix is fascinating! Hopefully these three themes will be applicable to your daily lives and help you earn the success you deserve!

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33 thoughts on “How to Recharge, Find Harmonious Passion, and Be a Great Friend

  1. I somehow think I deleted my comment haha!! Second try! The title of your post really drew me in. I love how you described the 2 types of passion. Harmonious passion is indeed less draining, it allows you to do it for a very long time. However, I do admire the people with the burning obsessive passion, because what they can create with that passion is often so beautiful, that it leaves me speachless… xoxo Sarah

    1. You’re totally fine! I’m glad the title was enticing, I try to create titles that accurately reflect the information given but still make people want to click. It’s a delicate balance haha I never thought about obsessive passion that way, that’s a really great point. What an optimistic point of view!

    1. Thanks so much! I try to write things that will be useful and applicable to the people that read my posts. I’m glad you thought it was well done.

    1. That’s a great question. I would suggest setting boundaries. For example, if you are passionate about blogging, I would say that you should set times of the day (preferably the times that you’re most creative) to work on your blog. And just being aware of your thoughts when you’re not working on that task. If you’re feeling really bad about not working on your blog, then there should be some changes.

  2. I’ve always disliked the word passion, because I’ve associated it with obsession. Harmonious passion? I’ve never heard it described, but I like it.

    1. I completely agree. I really liked how it was broken down, because it shows the good and bad side of passion. It seems to appease people on both sides of the discussion.

  3. Awesome post! I wrote an article on how 15 minutes can be incredibly productive. I’ve never heard of obsession explained that way but I immediately connected to it. That’s one of the reason I started waking up at 4am. It’s my personal time to do what I need to for me and not feel guilty or cheated the rest of the day. The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod is a great book to read about that. Again, loved the article!

    1. Thanks so much for the book suggestion, it sounds great! I can’t believe you wake up that early by choice, that’s crazy haha But it’s really cool that you’ve found a system that works for you. I wake up at 4:30 every day, but it’s for work and I’m not sure I get as much out of it.

      If you get a chance, post a link to your article on how 15 minutes can be productive. I’d absolutely love to read it!

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